Wouldn’t it be great to have a magic genie grant you three wishes?
What would you wish for? Who would you help? What world problem would you eliminate? What would you do for yourself? The magic genie scenario is fun, but it also helps us keep focused on what we want most in life. Cornell University shows that 84 percent of people look back on their life with regret. We’ve all used the “I-wish-I-would’ve…” phrase when looking back. But what if we didn’t have to? What if we were our own magic genie and granted our own wishes?
Here are 7 common wishes we have control of:
1. I wish I would live a life true to myself, not the life others expect of me
This is the number one regret of the dying. Most people know deep down the life they want to live, but they allow the demands, expectations and busyness of life to rob them of that life. The second hardest thing in life is to identify and design the life you want to live. The hardest thing in life is to stay on course when the demands and expectations of others come.
2. I wish I would spend more time with my family
In a fast-paced, action packed, smart world it is challenging to slow down, turn off the phone when you’re home, leave the office early (on days you can) and focus on your family. When people are older, you never hear them say they regret spending more time with their family, but you do hear the regret of not spending enough.
3. I wish I would stay in touch with my old friends
The average person influences 15,000 people in a lifetime, but the average person only has 2-3 close friends. The average friendship lasts only 7 years and the reason is people don’t stay in touch. With all the advances in communication technology we should have no problems keeping in touch, but it requires a little discipline. We need to keep this quote in mind, “Discipline weighs ounces, regret weighs a ton.”
4. I wish I would take care of my body better
This wish is especially true as people age and their joints begin to ache, blood pressure rises, and prescriptions increase. Our bodies are our life vehicles meant to help us reach our life vision, dreams, and destinations. The better we take care of our vehicle, the further we can travel.
5. I wish I would be myself with people
Bitterness and unforgiveness are the killers of authenticity. Hurting people hurt people and are easily hurt by people. Everyone fears pain. We subconsciously avoid it and that causes us to be inauthentic. Pain is a part of life, but it doesn’t have to control us. Practicing forgiveness daily is like having body armor for relationships without having to lose authenticity.
6. I wish I would make more money
For those living in a capitalistic society this is a simple fix. You look for opportunity, find the one you like, put yourself in the right position, dedicate yourself to serving others, and stick it out until you succeed. Money has no feelings. It doesn’t care who gets it, but it is constantly flowing like an ocean. If you position yourself properly and serve others, more money will flow your way.
7. I wish I was smarter
We live in the Information Age. Scores of information comes our way in a multitude of mediums. We process information at an amazing rate. The problem with most people is they don’t think. Statistics show that 80 percent of people don’t think for themselves. If people would critically think about the information they are bombarded with, they would feel empowered, and smarter.
Jim Rohn said, “Don’t wish for things to be easier, wish you were better. Don’t wish for a better wind, wish for the wisdom to set a better sail.” It’s so easy to get caught up in regret and wish Doc would bring us a time traveling DeLorean to change things around. We can’t change what was. But we can look at what we wish for, position ourselves properly, be mindful of the demands and expectations of others, and set our sails to take us wherever we want to go.
Be your own magic genie and continually ask yourself, “What do you wish?”